I love pouring over Psalms and Proverbs, digging for pieces of how to be a better wife, mom, and woman of God. I love that God gives us ideas and encouragement everywhere for what it means for us to be godly women, and what that looks like in the context of being a mother, sister, or wife.
Ladies! If you’ve never done so before, go digging through your Bible looking for nuggets on what that looks like. I love that God so often gives us character qualities of a godly woman. That leaves room for each of us to take what we find and figure out how to make it a part of us – with our unique personalities, traits, gifts, and callings! *sigh of relief* You being a godly woman doesn’t have to look like me being a godly woman, and me being a godly woman doesn’t have to look like that girl over there being a godly woman!! So much freedom to make it your own, and follow where God leads you!
One of my favorite verses describing womanhood is found in Proverbs. Let’s look at it.
Proverbs 14: 1 – The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. (ESV)
Here’s another version:
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. (NIV)
Wow. Firstly, whenever you see descriptions of a wise person, always take note! Wisdom is one of God’s most praised qualities. And it’s not too hard to obtain. We pay attention, and we pray for it! (You can look in James chapter 1 for more on wisdom and how to get it.)
Secondly, look at the power these women have!! Wise woman over there is building her house, and not-so-wise-woman is tearing her house down. Those seem like pretty crazy feats, yet these women appear to be doing it on their own. Talk about girl power.
Check out one more version of this verse:
A wise woman strengthens her family, but a foolish woman destroys hers by what she does. (NCV)
Oh, sweet woman of God. You hold so much power! If you are a mama, if you are a daughter, if you are a sister, if you are a wife, and if you are a friend. Wherever you come in contact with people, you hold power. It’s in the nature of being a woman. You give strength, or you destroy.
God gave us as women the power to set the tones in our houses.
When we have bad days, people are affected. When we have celebrations, people are affected. When we choose joy, people are affected. When we are angry, people are affected.
We can choose to make our house a place of rudeness, of discouragement, of hot tempers, and of apathy.
Or we can choose to use our power for good. We can choose to find joy in the little things, to encourage the people that live around us, to use our words wisely and gently, to rebuke lovingly, to set an example in serving others…even those we don’t really feel like serving.
If you think of somewhere that feels like home, it isn’t just a house, is it? Homes are so much more than a set of walls or some pictures hanging above a bed.
Homes are laughter and smiles around Christmastime. Homes are hugs after hard days and kisses on scraped knees. Homes are gathering together to tell stories. They are scents of biscuits, or pies, or macaroni and cheese. They are giggling late at night. They are that spot in the garage where an unfinished project always sits. Homes are where you feel welcome. Where you feel known. Where you are loved.
Homes are places where we take our gifts, our creativity, our joys, our efforts, the things we like and care about, and we spread them to those around us and make them beautiful.
We get to play the biggest part in whether our house is just a house, or if it becomes a home.
Again, this may look different for each woman. We’re all different, so our homes will all look different. The key is to be building up your house, to be giving life and love and strength. Then we will truly understand what it means to be a home-maker, and to see the people around us flourish.
So go out and use your power. For good.